Inner freedom

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Snowball is the most difficult to make in the beggining. Spinning of the flywheel.

Reikia pradet. Karjera. Jiu jitsu. Viskas.

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Viskas tik vibracijos

Viskas tik vibracijos.
Ka vibruojam, ta pritraukiam.

Follow my energy.. dont talk about languages, or job changes. only internal

We attract what we radiate into the world

Karma
Know situation
Want to do it
Do it or get it done
Be satisfied afterwards

Principles.. truly try to see how life is. See reality, not your ideas about it. Radical openness.

x3 coffees max
Expand networks
calm ppl
successful
articulate
image?
ask for help / ask how can i help, / give contributions
you become who you see yourself as, shed old identity

Impermanence

Mindset

Story about planes that returned, have to strengthen the parts that were not shot

The faster you make mistakes, the faster you learn, repeating what youre good at is not so useful

Power belongs to one who never loses calm, least needy
Focus on what you want, not on negative, object fixation
in a panic ppl follow your state
Space1: situation vs reaction
Space2: urgency vs importance. slow down reaction
Space3: identity vs outcome
Physiological sigh
Double inhale through nose, single long through mouth
Control the frame
what game is being played
label whats happening
Absorb the hit
just sound waves, focus on words
Lower the stakes
it is just a discussion, not a personal threat
theyre threatened, not me
ask for clarification
Move decisively
one clear action, one clear sentence
Calm is a survival strategy - AI, social media.
“Bad news is investor’s best friend” W. Buffet

Intelligence is knowing how to solve a problem. Wisdom is knowing if the problem is worth solving.

Systems
Feedback loops.. can be delayed (smoking takes time)
Hidden parts, what keeps repeating
Wrong incentives - cobras in india

Clear Systems - Cause and Effect is obvious and easy to observe
CHECKLISTS
M&Ms Van-Halen
Cooking
Just be precise, follow process, protocols

Complicated system - cause and effect are hard to understand the relationship between the two
SLOW DOWN & ANALYZE or FIND THE RIGHT SPECIALIST
need analysis and or expertise
mechanic, doctor etc .
Complex Systems - can only see cause and effect in hindsight
Try small experiments, adjust in real time
Stay directionally right, course correct as you go
e.g. integrating two companies with different cultures
even experts might not help.. e.g. AI integration is complicated, but making ppl use it is a complex system, noone knows what will happen
can’t raise a teen with a SOP
Chaotic System - link between cause and effect breaks down
Act First, Stabilize first , ask later
Biggest mistake - analysis paralysis
J&J recalled 31m bottles of medicine.
Cause and effect are impossible to know

DART
Deconstruct
Analyse - cause and effect
Recognize - have I seen this before , see patterns
Test - run the smallest test you can before committing

The system you live in is training you.
How to have an outside perspective?
Mentour - outside, no direct personal interest
Data - what the system is doing vs what i think its doing
Time - compare yourself vs what you were doing a day,week, year ago

You’re good enough as is, dont need a firm to validate.. maybe i wouldnt even be happy there
most ppl are so bad at simple things
you just need to do simple things right
believe in yourself, self doubt is comfort…
accept the fact you’re one of the best ever
Don’t think its so difficult and task is enormous.. just trust yourself. you’re good enough, let this just be me
just good old me will be an amazing success. just me. the same old me , getting outsized success
Obvious stuff in a structured manner
Tell a story
Structure

Best Habits
Break overwhelming goals into tiny actions that actually get done
Everest - step by tep, look up - it breaks you
Recover quickly when you fall into bad habits instead of spiraling
Control Inputs - Eliminate mental clutter and regain control of your attention
Email widows
Finish, forward, snooze it or delete it (so its doesnt linger)
Use writing as a tool for clearer thinking and better decisions
BEFORE anything foggy…
What do I know
What am I assuming
What is a next honest action
Work with your brain's natural energy cycles instead of fighting them
Quantum… smallest action is most powerful, start as small as possible
Improve sleep quality by understanding how caffeine really affects you
2 puodeliai, iki 12:00
Ride the wave
60-90min study block
Real Recovery block
Real break - no inputs
Build habits that survive bad days, low motivation, and setbacks
Bad day.. At night.. go outside and look up.. Small small small…
Create more gratitude, perspective, and resilience in everyday life

Develop systems that continue working long after motivation disappears
forgive yourself when all habits break
aw, grat, self frog.

Time Management - Manage your Attention
What got you here, won’t get you there
The 3-2-1 System: An Overview
Role 1: The Maker
many priorities, individual contributor, stay in your lane, deep work, clear deliverables and clear timelines
Role 2: The Marker
10-20 priorities all at once, team members, partners, etc..
others will produce, you edit, give feedback, build process, automate, delegate
Delegate or do yourself? Mission critical
Role 3: The Multiplier
30-50 responsibilities, large responsibilities
most expensive router
Recruit, orchestrate, align, connect ppl, make strategic bets
dont obsess over detail, focus on the big picture
The Two Zones: Wartime vs. Peacetime
Wartime: collapsing time, gotta get to details
can move from multiplier to marker or marker to maker
Peacetime: relax, be multiplier
The One Non-Negotiable: Focus on What Only You Can Do
what is that I should focus on, what on I can do… rest delegate.. relationships, culture, recruiting..
Trust Management: The Secret to Effective Delegation
in the details to learn
review to coach
step in - to unblock
time management - develop and manage trust
New: work alongside them, give comfort
too much freedom to newbies = fail
Some experience: guide them closely, give clarity
Expert: step in to unblock, give context
micromanage = they’ll quit

Define a non-negotiable

Frameworks, mindset for confidence
A break down why confidence is often backwards: lots of top performers (even CEOs) feel like frauds, while the Dunning-Kruger effect shows how ignorance can look like certainty and even earn status.
Explaining why “fake it till you make it” only creates short-term rented confidence, and share my three-ring model: rented confidence, earned confidence, and owned confidence.
how rejection and rehearsal build core confidence, and argue that real confidence can be quiet.

Donning Kruger effect
Experts underestimate their ability
Newbies - overestimate

Ignorance feels like confidence
Overconfident get higher status in groups, ppl believe you
Incompetent people project more confidence, the room rewards them for it

Three rings of confidence
Outer - rented, voice, posture.. react to the room
act as if
Mid - earned confidence - self efficacy. Deeper than outer ring, but it is specific to a narrow domain
Where am I less confident? Work on it. (e.g. corporate finance, learn a new skill, learn the gap)
Inner - owned confidence, need no recognition, just my capacity to function when things don’t work out
Success and rejection… write one sentence down. My actions succeed or failed. not me. my actions
confidence is about action. What did you fail at today?
Nothing = disappointed
Take a small risk. Try it .

Act first. A lot.
Be kind to yourself, speak to yourself as if you were to a good friend. Also in difficult time.

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simulate visualize

TRAP
Test (recall)
Repeat
A
P

Ease vs Retention. Easy is not helpful

Testing is great learning mechanism

same 3 qs before bed
what did i learn today
what was good

write on paper

Einstein: if I had 1 h to solve a problem, I’d spend 55min defining it and 5 min solving it

Sit infront of blank page, stare at a page
Leadership - give creti to others… incredible how much you can accomplish when u dont care who gets creti
acknowledge effort, name issue, path forwards

Reikia apie santykius geru principu uzsirasyti

Imperfect plan with action wins over perfect planning delaying

Speak from your core
chest?
resonance?
find right breathing
listen to yourself. your voice is your instrument
find your resonance

Analyse and visualize, practice:
Crucial Conversaions
Start with no
Volere troppo e ottenerlo

do smth daily, mark it daily…